What to say to the yelling or cursing customer “I’m trying to help you, but if you continue to yell and swear, I am going to ask that you call back another time. It’s up […]
Category: Difficult Customers
The Secret of Socrates
How to get irrational customers to think rationally The diplomatic communicator builds a psychological path toward an affirmative response by strategically getting their “opponent” to say “yes” a number of times. Get the […]
How to Resolve Problems Without Giving the Store Away
This training video is from our Golden Method for Complaint Resolution online video course… The Golden Method for Complaint Resolution Online Video Course This multi-media online training program positions customer service representatives to regain control […]
The Consumer Vigilante
How to Defuse Aggression and Steer Clear of Danger with Consumer Vigilantes There’s a certain degree of extremism that’s popping up, a sense of “I’m going to get results, whatever means necessary.” Pete Blackshaw […]
“Cancel my AOL please!”
Most companies don’t realize they are putting a significant amount of revenue at risk by letting customers leave without trying to save them. A recent study by Marketing Metrics has shown that companies have a […]
How to Get Any Angry Customer to Back Down
Imagine your next phone call is from an angry, irate customer, and you’ve only got a few seconds to gain control. Are you 100% confident you can handle it? If not, you’re not alone. […]
26 little ideas to help you be nicer to unhappy or complaining customers

Here are 26 ideas you can print off and share with your customer service employees. Or, you could share these ideas in a quick 3-minute training.
The ABC’s of Customer Recovery
Act as if every lost customer’s value to the company comes out of your paycheck.
Believe the best of customers. Don’t make the mistake of assuming most customers are out to simply get something for nothing. The truth is, less than 1% of customers contact companies with ulterior motives in mind.
Communicate with diplomacy and tact when your final answer is “no” and when explaining company policy.
Don’t tell a customer she is wrong. Telling a customer they are wrong never makes them want to agree with you. It only pushes them more forcefully into their original position.
Empathize with unhappy customers and allow this empathy to season your responses.
Find a way to say “yes” to customers. Instead of saying “no” or telling the customer what you can’t do, think critically about what you actually can do.
Give a token item such a coupon as a concrete form of apology.
Have a sense of urgency. Demonstrate with your words and speed of response that getting to the bottom of the problem is just as important to you as it is to your customer.
Involve customers in the problem resolution process. Sometimes it’s very helpful to simply ask, “How do you see us resolving this?”
Jot down the customer’s name and details of the problem they are describing so you don’t have to ask the customer to repeat information.
Keep customers apprised of your timetable and progress toward resolving their problems.
Listen with the intent to truly understand your customer, not with the intent to interrupt, reply, or correct.
7 Questions About Negotiating with Customers with Myra Golden
1. Is it wise to make concessions when negotiating with customers? Every negotiator, even savvy executives, concedes from time to time and as long as the concession makes good business sense, it’s okay. […]
Jack Nicholson’s famously hilarious chicken-salad-sandwich speech in Five Easy Pieces
I actually feature this clip in my full-day customer service workshops. It gets hilarious laughter for sure, but after the clip we discuss how the waitress could have handled this customer better. Watch the video, […]
How to Get a Talkative Customer to Cut to the Chase

Research shows the average business call lasts two minutes longer than it needs to. The bitter truth is most of us spend far too much time on the phone with customers and co-workers in idle small talk or listening to the whiner, rambler, or storyteller.
So how do you politely end a call when you know it’s no longer productive? I’ll give you six of my favorite strategies for graciously bringing a long-winded caller back to focus.
One. Apprise of a time limit early
This doesn’t mean you state that you only have a couple of minutes. It’s the reverse of that, and it works like this: “I don’t want to take up too much of your time.” Or “I’ve taken up enough of your time” (even when they’ve called you.) “I’m sure you’re busy, so I’ll make this quick.” “One final thing I need to cover...”
Statements like these setup time parameters for you and help you end the call quickly and politely.
Two. Interject with a question when the caller pauses
This is something you’ll do with the long-winded caller, the rambler, and the storyteller. As they are going on and on, wait for a pause and interject: with a statement like…
- “The first thing we need to do is…”
- “The reason I’m calling is …”
- “Listen, I need to get some information from you.”
- “Real quick, I just need a couple of numbers from you…”
